Finding True Beauty in Yourself and Others

Beauty. Love. Inspiration. These ideas are often entwined together. When you fully appreciate the beauty of something or someone, you experience love. You likely feel inspired to be your best self and, hopefully, want the best for others. That said, not everything is beautiful. To use a well-worn analogy, even roses have thorns – and thorns can hurt! To enjoy a happy, loving life, it’s essential to be aware of the beautiful and not-so-beautiful.

How happy we feel is very much related to how we experience three fundamental relationships: the ones we have with ourselves, others, and the world. Happiness depends on finding a way to balance the positive and negative. Here are 3 ways to do that:

Find beauty in yourself.

Doing this can make you feel good about yourself, no matter what happens. But it’s important to also recognize your weaknesses and limitations. No one needs to be perfect to have value and be lovable. Knowing your limits is valuable in helping you grow.

Find beauty in others.

When you do this, you will feel moved by the good others bring to you and the world. But acknowledge their flaws, too. Seeing others clearly allows you to appreciate them for who they are, not who you would like them to be. So, when you love them, you truly love all of them. By doing this, you will also be more open to the possibility that they are not a healthy choice for a close friend or partner.

Find beauty in the world.

Learning to do this helps diminish personal pain. The key is to accept that ugliness and cruelty do exist. Denying this robs beauty of its splendor. It blinds you to opportunities to do beautiful things by attending to the ugliness.

By finding beauty and pain in the world around you, you will give yourself the tools to create a happy, loving, and beautiful life.


This article was posted on WebMD